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What do you think about show offs? - 2/23/2010 6:44:16 AM
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Mehetabel
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Hey there girls. I've got a question for you as well :)
So let me just get straight to the point:
Is it true that girls are more attracted to guys who are acting cool, showing off, doing all kind of things to impress the girls!?
What about guys who have big stories about how they ended up in hospital because they made a cool jump with the bike or things like that?
Let me know :)
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/23/2010 10:34:59 AM
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sunshine22
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To be honest Mehetabel, show offs do not impress me. I've never been one to go for the braggarts who do foolish things to get women's attention (and sometimes even embarrassing or hurting themselves). I am not impressed with huge scars because they did something that was over the edge, etc.
That has just never been me....hopefully my growing up with 5 brothers didn't numb me to this aspect of men, because 4 older brothers + 1 younger brother = lots of male friends that do stupid things that I got to witness as a young girl and teenager. I got my fill...lol
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/23/2010 11:02:00 AM
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Mehetabel
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To be honest Mehetabel, show offs do not impress me....
hehe I'm not asking this question because I am a show off. But rather am the opposite! I just want to know because it always seems like girls like the "cooler" guys better.
Let me expand the question:
What about guys who just do something cool as a hobby ( not with the purpose of impressing woman ). This could also be doing tricks with bikes, but again, just as a hobby. Not to brag about it. Does that add anything to how attractive that guy is?
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/23/2010 11:53:42 AM
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What about guys who just do something cool as a hobby ( not with the purpose of impressing woman ). This could also be doing tricks with bikes, but again, just as a hobby. Not to brag about it. Does that add anything to how attractive that guy is?
Interested people are interesting, so if I was still single, I'd find a man with a passion for something, wether it was "cool" or not, to be more attractive than a guy without any strong interests.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/23/2010 11:58:38 AM
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I think it's cool when a man has talent to trick on a bike, or snowboard, or skateboard, or something like that. I admire that talent. However, if he exploits it to show off for me or women around me, or does tricks just to appeal to women then no...I think it's arrogant and ridiculous and won't hesitate to say something about it.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/23/2010 1:34:25 PM
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Never found show-offs cool. Found them annoying...
Didn't mind if someone were talented..but they had to have more than talent to get my attention..and keep it.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/23/2010 3:33:32 PM
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Save all that bragging for the guys. I was never impressed that way. If someone has true talent they don't need to go over the top to brag about it. Just an honest assessment of " this is what I enjoy doing and I'm pretty good at it , too" is enough.
M'love bragged some but never obnoxiously. It is neat to see some of his past achievements.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/23/2010 7:19:05 PM
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Is it true that girls are more attracted to guys who are acting cool, showing off, doing all kind of things to impress the girls!?
Immature women, maybe. Teens and preteens, maybe.
Mature, wise, godly women? Nope. Nope. NOPE.
I don't think a show-off ever impressed me. The class clown? His charm pulled me in. But that's another story for another day!
Immaturity is a turn-off.
In a guy (being Christian is a given) - give me intelligence, humor, humility, and a heart for people. (And gorgeous blue eyes would be gravy on that!  )
What about guys who have big stories about how they ended up in hospital because they made a cool jump with the bike or things like that?
See answer above.
If a guy tells a story like this and the way he's doing it shows that he can laugh at himself and his foibles, then it's endearing and shows that he has a good sense of humor and a balance of humility with confidence about who he is in Christ.
What about guys who just do something cool as a hobby (not with the purpose of impressing woman). This could also be doing tricks with bikes, but again, just as a hobby. Not to brag about it. Does that add anything to how attractive that guy is?
Might be cool to the gal. Depends on the gal. We women don't all agree on what is cool and what is not. Plus, what we thought was cool at 12 may not be cool at 22 and may be really uncool at 42.
That he does an adventurous sport or hobby or something unusual may intrigue a woman, but rarely does she choose to be with him for that factor alone.
And... people of similar interests do tend to attract each other. If she likes rock climbing and has always wanted to try sky-diving, then the guy who sky-dives is probably gonna pique her interest more than a guy who'd rather stick a red-hot poker in his eye than go do adventure sports.
Plus, a man who works hard and shows that he'll be a good provider, has excellent character, has a servant heart, and enjoys perfecting his "cool trick" skills in his favorite hobby? HOT!
A man who doesn't seem to know how to hold down a job, who cheats on his woman, and who has more than a handful of illegitimate children... and who has a cool hobby/passion? UGH. 
It may seem that a lot of "girls" go for guys who are show-offs, are "cooler," are more adventurous, or are "edgier." But that may just be the particular women you've been around and have paid attention to.
(And how many happily married men in their golden years are poppin' wheelies, scootin' down the pipe, or jumping rows of cars? SRSLY. 
They're poppin' vitamins, scootin' in their Hover-round chairs, and jumping up in the middle of the night to tinkle!!)
It's more important for a man to discover his specific calling and purpose on earth (more specific than "please God and glorify Him forever") and to develop his gifts and talents... not to try to be like some other guy who seems to get all the women.
'Cause you don't need all the women. You just need one.
And one who is a good choice for you will like YOU, not some guy-mold that you've tried to squish yourself into.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/23/2010 7:22:40 PM
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I found show-offs immature and just silly, and I wondered if that was all they could do.
But, a guy who faces a difficult job that must be done, and he does it with skill and a positive attitude, that's impressive! Add humor to that mix and it's a perfect man for me.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/23/2010 11:11:45 PM
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Show offs are entertaining! I think there are all kinds of guys with all kinds of merit and I appreciate each one for his own talents. If a guy has a unique skill or flair of personality i'll like that too. Usually, guys who get the most attention are those that draw the most attention. Like beauty, or money or anything topical in a person it will be their Godly character that wins out for a Christian woman/girl. A guy who is quiet may need to make just a bit more of an effort to get on a girls radar but once on it, he's got as good a chance as the show off. Just be consistant. Also, a guy who does something, has a passion, an interest, etc. will definately be interesting because he's living his life and people like to see a person making the most of what they've got.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/23/2010 11:55:59 PM
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deermousie
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Here's the point I meant to more clearly say:
Is he showing off doing some dumb thing...
...or is he showing off doing what men do: protecting a kid from bad guys, taking care of their families sacrificially by holding down a job, protecting a lady from bullies/predators, etc.
There's a world of difference between doing a pointless and dangerous thing and standing up like a man against a dangerous world to help others.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/24/2010 10:29:00 AM
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sunshine22
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ORIGINAL: Mehetabel
hehe I'm not asking this question because I am a show off. But rather am the opposite! I just want to know because it always seems like girls like the "cooler" guys better.
Depends on what you think "cool" is...but I'll stick with my answer, I don't really go for the "cool" guys. I love men that are musically inclined...I think that is cool. A man that can sing his pants off (not literally y'all), play the given instrument....ah, now that I wouldn't mind hearing how he's learned a new song, etc.
Selfless acts are also very "cool" to me too, but if he's athletically inclined, etc. that is fine, but it takes a bit more than that for me. It may be cool, look cool, but like I said... maybe too many brothers and their friends have diluted me on this particular side of the "coolness" factor.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/24/2010 2:49:29 PM
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ORIGINAL: Mehetabel
Hey there girls. I've got a question for you as well :)
So let me just get straight to the point:
Is it true that girls are more attracted to guys who are acting cool, showing off, doing all kind of things to impress the girls!?
What about guys who have big stories about how they ended up in hospital because they made a cool jump with the bike or things like that?
Let me know :)
Well..this "show off" behaviour in my oppinion is part of young males growing up process..most males of animal kingdom have some display of showing off ..each specie of animal have their own thing..not all are like peacocks...  Among human young males it much depends individual make ups. The athletics, very active sportive, competitives and hyper males might be seen by those not so active ones as showing off..because some people are much up front and naturally been seen by others.
I grew up in the lare 60's early 70's in a time we all were playing in the open, nature, on top of trees ,very little tv around or playing inside home ..high imagination , creativity and etc...I guess I enjoy those who are natural show offs personalities, I am kind of a "show off" myself...Now, the annoying show offs for me are the fake ones, those who want to impress mostly.."they" make much noise, might wear fancy stuff but it all peels off because it is just a tactic to get attention.. "they" hide their own self and choose to play with a make believe/fake one..."They" might "worry/preocupied" about pleasing the crowd..and the same crowd will reject those in the end anyways.
I enjoy people who are at peace with themselves, not worried about pleasing everybody and etc..now, if they come in vibrant personalities, show off personalities those can be really fun, a goofy bunch can be very good.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/25/2010 5:44:23 AM
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Mehetabel
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Aight, that clears things up a lot girls. If I read all your comments it seems like:
1. guys who show of just to impress are -quoting from deermousie- immature and just silly.
2. guys who do something cool just for fun have usually more attention because they draw it to them (unintentionally). But that doesn't really mean they are higher on the "want have list" then guys who don't do the same.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/25/2010 11:59:41 AM
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ORIGINAL: Mehetabel
Aight, that clears things up a lot girls. If I read all your comments it seems like:
1. guys who show of just to impress are -quoting from deermousie- immature and just silly.
2. guys who do something cool just for fun have usually more attention because they draw it to them (unintentionally). But that doesn't really mean they are higher on the "want have list" then guys who don't do the same.
This seems reasonable.
I like a guy who does the right thing, because that often goes against the flow and makes him stand out. A guy who jumps in front of a truck to save a kid or who builds houses with Habitat for Humanity or refuses to be forced into doing something wrong - all those are things that will draw attention, too (and not because he had a beer too many). That's a step above a guy who does something just for fun, although that could be pretty innocent and non-stupid, too.
That's so different than a guy who thinks he can make his truck jump a canal if he's going fast enough (splash!). He has nothing to gain and a lot to lose, and that might be the grid to decide whether to do something or not.
BTW, your name is cool.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/27/2010 7:02:52 AM
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Consider the young lady who is impressed by the show-off. Perhaps when the lad behave normally she would become bored and then go to find the next big thriller. Would a guy really want that constent pressure to perform?
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 2/28/2010 6:04:17 PM
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deermousie
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Consider the young lady who is impressed by the show-off. Perhaps when the lad behave normally she would become bored and then go to find the next big thriller. Would a guy really want that constent pressure to perform?
This is a good question. What kind of woman is impressed by a guy doing something pointless and dangerous? If a man of excellent character who does life well (and most of life is boring, like paying bills and walking the floor all night with a sick baby) bores her, then I wouldn't think she's good marriage material; her priorities are cattywhompus and she doesn't discern a life lived well. Which tells me she won't live life well, either.
Remember the story about the guy in the Roman ampitheatre who wins at a dangerous contest and greets the woman who liked him, and she deliberately dropped her hanky into the arena full of lions? He retrieved it, returned it to her, and told her no woman who loved a man would ask him to go into danger for nothing, and he dumped her on the spot. Wise man.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 3/5/2010 3:34:06 PM
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Acting cool and showing off? Nah, I don't care for that. I prefer a man with a quiet sense of self confidence.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 3/9/2010 3:19:05 AM
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Show offs are always fun to watch, until someone gets hurt. Then it's hilarious! I'm just joking. I've never been attracted to showoffs, but I might be intrigued if a guy tries really hard to do things that'll personally impress me. This lets me know that he's found out some things about me and is trying to use that knowledge to grab my attention and hold it for awhile.
Okay, okay, I've just gotta add this. Being from east TN, I've heard these words from guys all my life and thought it might fit in here.
Rednecks' "Famous Last Words": "Hey watch this!"
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 3/10/2010 6:24:03 PM
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quote:
Hey there girls. I've got a question for you as well :)
So let me just get straight to the point:
Is it true that girls are more attracted to guys who are acting cool, showing off, doing all kind of things to impress the girls!?
What about guys who have big stories about how they ended up in hospital because they made a cool jump with the bike or things like that?
Let me know :)
I'm sure that some girls must like it otherwise guys wouldn't do it. At this stage of the game for me (late 30s), I would see a man who does that as being very insecure and a bit sad. I'd also be concerned about how impulsive he is. I can't say that I'd hate it, but at this age, for a guy to do that, there are probably some issues that he needs to work on. I think at younger ages (teens, early 20s) that's just the way a lot of guys are. They want to impress to feel more like a man, so they do stuff like that. I think a lot of it is developmental and most guys grow out of it. Even when I was a young woman, I never really thought that it was cool - I just wondered why someone would tempt death.
I know a guy who is a bit like this - an older gentleman - always needs to be in the center. He's not jumping bikes or racing cars or anything like that - but he really needs to be the center of attention most of the time. People are kind of mean to him, but when I see him, I see someone who probably didn't get a lot of praise and encouragement in his life. As he becomes more deeply rooted in Christ, a lot of that will naturally drop away. He has a lot of wisdom, actually - it would be wonderful for him to quietly trust what he has. I think this is one way that women can encourage men and help them - a woman can help point a man to Christ and help build the man up.
That being said, some people like to be the center of attention because they are wired that way. I think about the actors and performers that I know for instance. I think that enjoying the spotlight is vastly different than needing to be in it all of the time and putting yourself in danger because of it. It is all a matter of degree.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 3/12/2010 12:42:57 PM
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When I was an immature girl, I found some of those types of guys attractive.
When I grew up, I found them annoying.
Exactly what she said!!
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 3/15/2010 1:00:34 PM
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What I find extremely attractive is a guy who has many talents and is very humble about them.
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RE: What do you think about show offs? - 3/23/2010 1:52:49 AM
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I like guys who give me warmth. I don't know what a guy would do to impress a girl. I am not that type of girl who is easily impressed, so a guy who lands himself in a hospital because of cool acts will not certainly consume any space in my brain.
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